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Post by Tara on Aug 11, 2005 13:31:11 GMT -5
Marriage Means TrustA married woman's friendship with a man shouldn't drive her husband to such anxious and controlling behavior. Dear Thomas, I have been married 5 years, and my spouse believes once you get married, your separate friendships either become mutual or don't exist, and friendships with the opposite sex are no longer permitted. I have a friend who has been there for me for 14 years. I guess I was wrong to "sneak" around and continue my friendship with him after I married. My husband found out, and he insists I was and still am sleeping with my friend. This was almost 2 years ago. I have asked him to seek counseling, but he won't let this go. I get timed when I leave the house, if I'm gone too long, I get snide comments or remarks, and we fight all the time. I believe he loves me, and I know it takes time, especially if he believes I was intimate with this person. But shouldn't he seek help? He says I tore us apart and I don't love him; I sleep in another room and we don't talk much, only because I conditioned myself to not feel anymore since these comments hurt so much. At this point, is it a waste to remain together? --Frustrated ( continue)
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Post by Sue on Aug 11, 2005 15:20:57 GMT -5
Time for a divorce!
eek!
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Post by PhantomsPandora on Aug 13, 2005 12:15:46 GMT -5
There's more going on than she's saying, that's just the feeling I get. It's time for her to put her foot down, period. Either they both go to counseling(because she's mistaken if she thinks she doesn't need it) or she leaves or he leaves, but immediate action has to take place.
I wouldn't allow my children if I were her to witness that kind of behaviour. Children watch relationships and form their opinions early from witnessing their parents. That's got to stop, for her, for her children, and for her husband. If he can't do it..then..it's time to go.
The fact that she went into the marriage and knew he was like that..
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Post by Tara on Aug 13, 2005 13:06:26 GMT -5
She might have done something in the past to cause him to not trust her. She must have done something really stupid and untrustworthy when he least expected it or had an inkling of suspisions about it. And if he reacts that way, I'm not saying it's right, but that it's understandable.
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Post by Mestemia on Aug 13, 2005 14:25:08 GMT -5
It is my opinon that there is not enough information provided to give an honest opinion. At least for me.
Without more information my opinon would be so chock full of 'if's' that it would be difficult to follow.
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Post by dianaholberg on Aug 13, 2005 15:22:30 GMT -5
I agree with Poly. Though frankly I curtail my male friendships when in a relationship just so there's no chance of suspicion. It's just as easy to get together as couples.
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Post by Mestemia on Aug 14, 2005 11:13:20 GMT -5
Miracles DO still happen!! I form my opinions around the information I have available. I will change my opinion or I will not change my opinion as I feel needed once presented with more information. Some poeple say this makes me a flip-flopper or even a hypocrit. In the situation above I have not enough information to form an honest opinion.
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Post by dianaholberg on Aug 14, 2005 11:53:52 GMT -5
lol...
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Post by Tara on Aug 14, 2005 13:48:44 GMT -5
Miracles DO still happen!!
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