Post by Tara on May 6, 2005 12:40:32 GMT -5
Once again, I'm in a rut. As some of you may remember, I had to live with my annoying religious fundamentalist uncle for some time. I've come to the conclusion that seeing he was just coming from a correctional facility that he was only doing that as some sort of psycological way of making rules for himself. (someone with knowledge of psychology terms would probably know what I'm talking about...I don't have the word for it) We would argue back and forth or he'd randomly post notes around the house about rules and all and basically telling everyone, even my mother, what's right and wrong. He has this sense of men being better than women kinda deal.
But anyway, my second rut is a little more of a dilema which involves my stepdad. My parents have been divorced for a few years now. It was supposed to be a surprise for me, but he's offered to apologize for being rude and bitter towards me for most of my life and all and he offered to pay for any extra expenses towards my college.
The thing is...he's planning on staying with us.
My memories of being with him... I never liked. He's always been bitter, although I did like him when it came to having philosophical discussions and all, but there were times when he'd be a little ridiculous. I remember when he put me to tears over something stupid as a name my brother chose for his character in a videogame. It wasn't really about me, but the fact that he would use profanity when I told him that perhaps my brother decided to use that name for a purpose of his own was a little over the top. It was weird now that I think about it. It's like he would control my brother and I about how we played our videogames. And it wasn't so much the time, but the fact that he would buy a game, then he would beat it first and then let my brother play, and not let me play nor watch and then when it was my turn to play, he would mock me if I couldn't figure out a puzzle or scenario or something. He also got mad at me when I said that perhaps he should go to counselling with me or something. He got bitter and I was stuck "explaining" myself for an hour and a half on it.
I also had memories of my parents arguing. For the 14 years he's been in my life, my parents have argued most of that time. I really don't recall them being loving or any of that stuff...ever.
Now...he's decided to "surprise" me with an apology and paying for some of my schooling by staying for three weeks at our house. So I told my mom to call him back and let him know that perhaps I wouldn't feel comfortable about it. So she called him and then she finds out that he plans on getting a job... what pisses me off is that, how the hell are you planning on staying for three weeks and then say you're getting a job? Obviously there are alternative motives. He's coming from another country and so he doesn't know how the job situation is here in the U.S. how it's getting tougher and all. So it's not like he could be succesful instantly.
I just hope he doesn't pull any fast ones. I totally don't trust him. I expected that he would come in the summer when school is over so I know the exact cost of my books and other expenses. I didn't expect that he would be coming...this coming Wednesday.
And then there's the boyfriend. I've been with him for almost two years and now it would be time for them to meet. And if I hear any negativity come out of my stepdad's mouth, I'll throw a tantrum. I'm also not afraid to kick him out or call the police if anything happens. This has been my territory for some time. What's interresting is that my mom feels the same exact way I do about the entire situation.
So yeah, that's my current worry. I'm not in the least bit excited about him staying with us. And it must be harder for my mom. I mean, your ex-husband moving back in for a while? No way. I don't trust him at all...I just want his money. And if he ends up getting mad over it, then I'd rather he leave without leaving me any money than to have to put up with him. 
How would you guys react?
But anyway, my second rut is a little more of a dilema which involves my stepdad. My parents have been divorced for a few years now. It was supposed to be a surprise for me, but he's offered to apologize for being rude and bitter towards me for most of my life and all and he offered to pay for any extra expenses towards my college.
The thing is...he's planning on staying with us.
My memories of being with him... I never liked. He's always been bitter, although I did like him when it came to having philosophical discussions and all, but there were times when he'd be a little ridiculous. I remember when he put me to tears over something stupid as a name my brother chose for his character in a videogame. It wasn't really about me, but the fact that he would use profanity when I told him that perhaps my brother decided to use that name for a purpose of his own was a little over the top. It was weird now that I think about it. It's like he would control my brother and I about how we played our videogames. And it wasn't so much the time, but the fact that he would buy a game, then he would beat it first and then let my brother play, and not let me play nor watch and then when it was my turn to play, he would mock me if I couldn't figure out a puzzle or scenario or something. He also got mad at me when I said that perhaps he should go to counselling with me or something. He got bitter and I was stuck "explaining" myself for an hour and a half on it.
I also had memories of my parents arguing. For the 14 years he's been in my life, my parents have argued most of that time. I really don't recall them being loving or any of that stuff...ever.
Now...he's decided to "surprise" me with an apology and paying for some of my schooling by staying for three weeks at our house. So I told my mom to call him back and let him know that perhaps I wouldn't feel comfortable about it. So she called him and then she finds out that he plans on getting a job... what pisses me off is that, how the hell are you planning on staying for three weeks and then say you're getting a job? Obviously there are alternative motives. He's coming from another country and so he doesn't know how the job situation is here in the U.S. how it's getting tougher and all. So it's not like he could be succesful instantly.
I just hope he doesn't pull any fast ones. I totally don't trust him. I expected that he would come in the summer when school is over so I know the exact cost of my books and other expenses. I didn't expect that he would be coming...this coming Wednesday.
And then there's the boyfriend. I've been with him for almost two years and now it would be time for them to meet. And if I hear any negativity come out of my stepdad's mouth, I'll throw a tantrum. I'm also not afraid to kick him out or call the police if anything happens. This has been my territory for some time. What's interresting is that my mom feels the same exact way I do about the entire situation.
So yeah, that's my current worry. I'm not in the least bit excited about him staying with us. And it must be harder for my mom. I mean, your ex-husband moving back in for a while?
No way. I don't trust him at all...I just want his money. And if he ends up getting mad over it, then I'd rather he leave without leaving me any money than to have to put up with him. How would you guys react?
