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Post by spiritman on Mar 30, 2005 18:54:44 GMT -5
I am not sure if this is the right area for this sorry if not. My question is in the subject line, reason I am asking is cause there is this black girl at work that I work with that I like. Now a few days ago I asked her if she has seen the movie "Guess Who"(to break the ice) and she told me no but she is going to go see it. She asked me who I went with to see the movie and I told her that I went by myself. Now ever since then she has been telling me about her personal life and how she dated a white guy before, where the area she lives in (not the exact location) that she lives with a roomate and told me how old she was.
She has asked me if I have a girlfriend and if I have ever had a girlfriend and I told her. She has been making eye contact with me alot more and even has been holding it longer to where it sort of makes me uncomfortable and to where I have to look away...but not before I give her a smile. Also she has been smiling at me alot more since then and even when I walk by her, she smiles and looks me in the eye..which I do the same back to her.
Am I reading too much into this or is this girl interested?
Thanks
Chris
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Post by dianaholberg on Mar 31, 2005 6:54:24 GMT -5
Why don't you ask her out and find out? Worst that can happen is she says no. It sounds like she's dropped a lot of hints. Go for it.
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Post by littlepea on Mar 31, 2005 14:11:43 GMT -5
i have a simliar problem, but i'm probably a whole lot worse than you.
i've liked a girl in my uni course for the last 2 years and i still haven't asked her out, now she's finished and i'm going on to do honours (assuming i pass my exams) and i'll never know. the only way i can see her is if i go and study in the library and hope to bump into her, it's pathetic.
there's another girl i like who is also in the same course as me and i have failed to ask her out for the last 9 months.
it's not entirely my fault cos i built myself up to ask one of them out a few weeks ago, but then neither of them turned up to class for the last 2 weeks of term, so there wasn't anything i could do even if i wanted to. i'm just a tit and there's no excuse.
i think they both liked me at some point, i dunno if they're still interested, one even asked for my phone number (she said it was so she could find me to copy my notes, but i'd already given her a copy so she didn't actually need it ... ). lots of stupid stuff as well like making silly faces at me in tutorials and laughing at my crap jokes (they even seem interested when i tell them about football, it's incredible).
the signs may have been there but i never did anything about it and now i may never know what might have happened. it's a bit sad and depressing really.
so spiritman, do yourself a favour and don't do what i did - get off your arse and ask her out!
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Post by Tara on Mar 31, 2005 15:15:05 GMT -5
Yes, the dating lines once again. lol
Spiritman, sounds like a hit. But don't be stupid about it and don't be overly dramatic. And don't try to be overly smooth. The best thing for you to do is simply be yourself. She already seems interested in you as it is and as you are, so why change?
That's all I can drum up for now. I'm in a rush.
And littlepea, if you continue what your dreams have been trying to tell you and some of the stuff I've said, I'm thinking you may get over your shyness. But I'll warn you about macho-ness...
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Post by spiritman on Mar 31, 2005 21:41:38 GMT -5
Yes, the dating lines once again. lol Spiritman, sounds like a hit. But don't be stupid about it and don't be overly dramatic. And don't try to be overly smooth. The best thing for you to do is simply be yourself. She already seems interested in you as it is and as you are, so why change? I know sorry about the dating lines it is because I have not been on a date before so I have lots of questions right now. lol
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Post by dianaholberg on Mar 31, 2005 22:14:18 GMT -5
You know, a date can just be having fun -- it doesn't have to be all sweaty palms and such. If a "date" makes you too nervous, get a bunch of friends together and ask her to join in. "Friends first" works pretty well.
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Post by spiritman on Mar 31, 2005 23:17:27 GMT -5
Yeah I know what you mean.
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Post by littlepea on Apr 1, 2005 10:32:17 GMT -5
see, i was ok with girls in school, but now i'm in 2nd year at uni things seem a bit more grown up and i can't keep up with it all, it's crazy!
you don't need to worry about machoness, though, i'm a big softy ;D
anyway, there's nothing i can do about it till i go back to uni (i hate that feeling) so i might as well forget about it for the next couple of weeks.
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Post by Tara on Apr 1, 2005 17:58:35 GMT -5
Oh spiritman, don't worry about the lines. Everytime I make references to them, I'm only kidding. I really don't care. Besides, this is the relationship board.
Keep us updated on this, if you don't mind.
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Post by Kathryn on Apr 1, 2005 23:16:24 GMT -5
In my opinion, she's definitely interested. Go for it.
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Post by PhantomsPandora on Apr 3, 2005 16:52:01 GMT -5
I say you ask her somewhere that's safe, like the movies is a safe bet because you've talked about it..just make it a short date that way if you both are just getting the friend vibe and nothing more, no harm done.
good luck sweetie!
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Post by spiritman on Apr 3, 2005 18:03:36 GMT -5
Thank you all for your inputs if she is working tomorrow I will ask to go to the movies with her...the worst she can say is no so I lose nothing.
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Post by littlepea on Apr 3, 2005 21:21:05 GMT -5
i recently got a book of scottish proverbs (so expect more like these in future) which goes: happy is the wooing that's no lang o' doing ... translated literally that's: happy is the wooing that's not long of doing - in other words, get on with it and ask her out! (i wish i could have gotten on with that some time in the last 2 years ) others are (you can work them out for yourself if you want): a flyer would aye hae a follower. glowering is nae gainsaying. he that woos a maiden maun come seldom in her sight; he that woos a widow maun ply her day and night. light maidens mak langing lads. nipping and scarting is scotch folks' wooing. sunday's wooing draws to ruin. the lass that has many wooers often wails the warst. wha may woo without cost? when petticoats woo, breeks may come speed. that's all the ones under courtship (a couple of which i can't figure out and i'm possibly the only one her who knows what all the words mean ) there's loads of other headings, it's great
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Post by dianaholberg on Apr 3, 2005 22:18:23 GMT -5
What is "nipping and scarting"?
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Post by Tara on Apr 4, 2005 8:18:13 GMT -5
Yeah littlepea, you gotta help us out with these things. lol
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