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Post by Tara on Mar 19, 2005 7:58:59 GMT -5
Do you think that there should be certain roles when it comes to chores and helping around the house when it comes to men and women? Do you think it would be better or worse if there were no set roles for the sexes?
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Post by dianaholberg on Mar 19, 2005 9:05:59 GMT -5
You know, it's a good question. I think it works best when two people divide things so that each is doing what they do best. Then the stuff that's left that no one wants, well... ...it usually goes to the woman
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Post by Amalcas on Mar 19, 2005 11:54:05 GMT -5
Men and women are better at different things (as a general rule). However, I think housework isn't one of those. Cultural, I guess. It is true that, originally, men brought in the game (which would take all day), so that could be how it fell to women to do housework. :shrug:
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Post by dianaholberg on Mar 19, 2005 13:15:39 GMT -5
I don't like to stereotype, but typically men are better at "sweaty" work like mowing the lawn, replacing light bulbs, painting, repairs, etc.
Typically, women are better at cleaning. (Men just generally don't seem to care.) Some women actually love to do dishes... to my amazement. And they're naturally better at most childcare.
Somehow I doubt anyone here fits the stereotypes. But I know my neighbors and grandparents operated their households this way successfully for more than twice my lifetime.
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Post by littlepea on Mar 19, 2005 19:29:53 GMT -5
most girls i know can't sit still if they know there's a mess nearby, it's quite funny, sometimes i intentionally leave a little bit of litter lying in the middle of the room and watch them get up and put it in the bin for me ;D so amusing ...
i don't know any guys like that, but one of my flatmates keeps his room impecable whereas mine is a complete dump. i always do my dishes after i use them, though, cos then i never get stuck doing a massive load which is mostly not mine. occaisionally, if the dishes haven't been done for several days (even though none of them are mine) and the kitchen is actually stinking, then i'll do the dishes anyway, but that's because it's actually unsanitary and i'd rather not die of food-poisoning ...
as for the set roles - no, not set, though maybe there should be some sort of agreement between each couple that they'll both do however much they're comfortable with and don't mind doing, and then if there's any more to be done then they'll split it equally
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Post by Tigress on Mar 19, 2005 19:34:21 GMT -5
I definitely don't fit the stereotypes presented here. lol The last time I sewed...I ended up stapling. ;D
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Post by littlepea on Mar 19, 2005 19:40:43 GMT -5
i know a couple of girl-slobs as well, you're not the only one Tiger
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Post by Tigress on Mar 19, 2005 23:42:24 GMT -5
I wouldn't go so far as to say I'm a 'slob' because there is a certain point at which I can no longer stand to look at or live in a mess. I do clean, and when I do, I do an insanely good job at it. I'm actually quite meticulous about how things are placed too. But anyhow, I think that in general, 'gender roles' are or should be a thing of the past. Each family or household should decide what works best for them.
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Post by Rainlily on Mar 25, 2005 22:55:09 GMT -5
I don't believe in set roles although if one partner is working and the other is not obviously the one not working should do most of the housework which is usually the woman. When both partners aare working then the housework should be diveded up evenly. Ofcourse when I was working I still did most of the housework but it was by chioce especially when it came to cooking, my husband really isn't very good cooking, never follows the directions and is limited in what he can make, so i chose to just cook it myself...lol Woman are generally better at cooking and cleaning but that is because in our society girls are taught to this stuff and to care about it when boys generally are not, something i would very like to do differantly with any of my children when i have them.
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Post by dianaholberg on Mar 25, 2005 23:27:23 GMT -5
I agree with the cleaning part... but I've had many male friends who are much better cooks than any women I've met!
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Post by PhantomsPandora on Apr 3, 2005 16:59:25 GMT -5
well both of my parents cook, as do I.......there is no gender rule here..we all pitch in..I guess though it depends on who's home really, I was raised where mom wasn't always home to fix dinner, she was working, so my father did a lot of that growing up. Though we do tease him a lot that we've had our fill of koolaid and hamburger helper, everytime someone brings it home, because he did fix a lot of that.
As for the other chores, it's usually me or my mother. Our house is pretty well lived in, but if I'm at someone else's place I can't stand it if I see something dirty, I have to clean it!
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