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Post by Tara on Sept 27, 2004 16:16:55 GMT -5
I thought this would have been interesting to discuss. I was debating on whether or not this should go under the general religious discussion b/c marriage is a religious affair (however civil union isn't).
What are your feelings on last names and marriage?
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Post by Tigress on Sept 27, 2004 17:03:35 GMT -5
I think the couple should do whatever they want.
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Post by Amalcas on Sept 27, 2004 18:25:07 GMT -5
I find that whatever their culture does is fine. What I personally like is the man retaining name, woman putting man's on end of name (in addition to own surname) and children taking man's. I know some persians who do this, and I thought it sounded nice.
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Post by moonchain on Sept 27, 2004 18:42:40 GMT -5
The femi-Nazi in me says "the man should take her name!", but in all honesty, I like the idea of each keeping their own last name and then they can do whatever the heck they want with the children's last names.
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Post by PhantomsPandora on Sept 27, 2004 22:57:18 GMT -5
Actually that's left up to the couple, but I don't mind having my hubby, when I marry, taking his last name.
So I'm the one who chose that, but to each their own.
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Post by Tara on Sept 28, 2004 14:04:44 GMT -5
I must be the only one who thinks that an entirely new name would be cool. To me, it signifies a new beginning and a fresh start. But then I thought of those who might do geneaology get lost in their research. But how do you think we got all these last names to start off with you know?
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Post by Amalcas on Sept 28, 2004 14:53:56 GMT -5
Jobs, or where you were from. Pretty universal, but has lost a lot of meaning now that that trades are not by lineage and people move a lot.
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Post by moonchain on Sept 28, 2004 15:13:35 GMT -5
There is also the lineage issue. I am a Rasmussen - which literally means "son of Rasmus". I really love my last name and would want to keep it, partly to continue my family's line (my parents had no sons and my father has 2 sisters, though one has a child out of wedlock that has our last name as well, but it is also a girl) and partly as a symbol of personal power (as stated above).
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Post by Badriyah on Oct 25, 2004 3:49:09 GMT -5
In Islam, when a woman marries she is not required to take the surname of the man she is marrying. This is because she is still the daughter of her father, this hasn't changed, and she is not the property of her husband.
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Post by Amalcas on Oct 25, 2004 17:15:39 GMT -5
That was kinda what I was talking about, that they should combine them, or something, so that they are both still recognizing their lineage, but also the joining thereof. Ever seen how the spanish do this? You can end up with very, very long names.
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Post by LaLoba on Apr 28, 2005 8:55:32 GMT -5
I wish I had of kept my maiden name. It is who "I" am and a connection to my father. As for my children, (if I were to do it now), I suppose I would christain them with their father's last name, but when old enough allow them to choose his or mine.
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Post by Tara on Apr 28, 2005 9:48:26 GMT -5
I think it takes for an interresting decision. But what about religious beliefs on this?
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Post by littlepea on Apr 28, 2005 13:36:22 GMT -5
i think the woman should take the man's last name, just cos it's one of those traditional things and i think it's quite romantic ;D:-* as for the origin of names - the irish and scottish names that start "Mc" and "Mac" (Mc is irish, Mac is scottish) mean "grandson of". so Macdonald means "grandson of Donald" and Macbeth means "grandson of Beth" (Beth sounds like a woman's name, though i dunno if it was common for them to use the name of their grandmother) other prefixes: "fitz" (as in fitzgerald) means son of (from the french "fils"), "O" (as in "O'Neill") means son of, "son" (as in "robertson") i can't actually remember - either son or grandson of (i guess that's kind of obvious though). names from jobs would be: millar, baker, butcher, mason etc. (maybe even Springer, as in Jerry Springer - the springmaker )
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Post by Rainlily on Sept 22, 2005 2:30:19 GMT -5
You know what is weird?? My whole life I have hated my last name which is Gratto because I never thought it sounded nice with my first name and couldn't wait to get married and change it. Last summer(2004) I got married. My husbands last name is Mackenzie and I love it! but after we got married and went to change my last name I realized I didn't really want to, it just felt too weird to change my name so I didn't... Personally I think it is really up to the couple what they do with their last names. I don't see any problem with a woman keeping her last name but also I don't see any problem with changing it or for him to take hers, the same goes with any children that result from the marriage. Personally I plan to have our children take his last name...
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Post by littlepea on Sept 22, 2005 7:55:51 GMT -5
Mackenzie - good scottish name should really be pronounced "ma-kinghy" cos the z is really like the gaelic dh apparently nova scotia is the only place outside scotland where people still speak gaelic - do you know if that's true, rainlily?
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